why is it so hard to get how awful you are when you refuse to apologize?
YOU DIDN’T MEAN TO HIT SOMEONE WITH A CAR DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN’T GO TO JAIL FOR MANSLAUGHTER
If you accidentally step on some one’s toes, you apologize. It’s just common sense - you obviously didn’t stomp on their toes on purpose, but you HURT THEM regardless. The same courtesy should be there when you accidentally hurt some one emotionally, too. You didn’t mean to, but that doesn’t change what happened. Apologize sincerely, make an effort to never do it again, and do NOT continue to sit there repeating “but I didn’t mean to” over and over again. They know that, but their toes still fucking hurt.
THIS IS WHAT I WENT THROUGH FOR NINE MONTHS.
This hurts more than almost anything I’ve gone through.
I ended up feeling really unimportant and silly because every time I complained to him that I had a problem with the way he treated me, he said “it was a joke” or “that wasn’t an insult.” It eventually lead to me being “Selfish and petty” and having to apologize to him for making a big deal out of it.
I APOLOGIZED TO HIM FOR HURTING MY FEELINGS.
I’ve, upon leaving him, found out that this is an “emotionally abusive” relationship, where all your problems are made out to be your fault.
THIS IS ABUSE WHEN YOU REFUSE TO OWN UP TO YOUR ACTIONS.